I recently shared that my passion for work is to use my writing and speaking engagements to help others grow while encouraging them to make choices that lead to a better life. In doing so, I’ve met some fantastic people who support me in this journey.

My Mentors remind me that following my calling really is my only option. Anything else would be slighting God and limiting His work in my life.

My Champions are the ones who rally around and believe in me when I begin to doubt my decisions.

My Encouragers, some whom I’ve never met, are those that relate how my stories have impacted their lives.

I value and need each of these people more than I can say. I thrive on hearing how a word or thought I’ve shared has given someone strength or hope. I rely on my Champions to carry me when I’m frustrated with my progress. And I am thankful for the exhortation to stay the course that only my Mentors can provide.

That being said, not everyone is a believer in what I do. Many people think I should be working a "traditional" job that earns a steady income to help care for my family. Some of these folks have even gone so far as to tell me I won’t "make it" in my chosen profession. Others have been much less blatant in their attempts to deflate my dream by simply pushing their negativity on me.

One of the lessons I quickly learned is that I need to rid myself of toxic people. Yes, toxic people. You know the type. Those that say, "You’re going to do what? Are you sure that’s what you want to do?" Or "That will never work. Give it up." These are the people who, rather than catching my vision, seem to push their own agenda.

Toxic people come in other forms too. They may not be attacking me directly, but they sure do zap my energy and make me feel bad when I am around them. These are the people who are always negative. They hate their job, never seem to get a break and are always having problems with someone. For these folks the weather is never right, the politicians are always wrong and the problems of the world are always on their mind.

Toxic people … get rid of them! Now I’m not necessarily advocating cutting off friendships with your lifelong pals, but I am saying that if you want to make things happen in your life you need to surround yourself with people who will help you reach your goals.

Find the Mentors, Champions and Encouragers. Focus on the relationships that bring you strength, happiness, and courage. Encircle yourself with those that challenge you to take the next step; those that will cheer for you from sidelines and run onto the field to give you a shoulder to lean on when you need it.

In the same way, be a Mentor, Champion and Encourager for others. Be the person people seek out and want to be around. Be the one who says, "Yes, you can do it. Keep going. Don’t give up."

Believe in yourself and believe in others. Find passionate people and enjoy the energy that will motivate you to Choose a Better Life by living your dream.  

Stephanie Hester

Thank you so much, Stephanie for your contribution.  Please pay her a visit at www.chooseabetterlife.net
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